Now it takes a dealership visit and a supply chain to get a firmware update. Good luck getting that to fly in the era of day-one patches and 1.0 betas.
Why the fk does a car need a firmware update regularly enough that going to a dealership is a problem? I honestly find myself wanting dumber everything these days.
So don't connect it to the internet. That's the only way you're going to be able to secure a car. (Well, and don't run Bluetooth, and and and...) Let the car be a car. You want to be connected via your car? Your car is now insecure.