“Letting it go to feel better”, in my opinion, is also an accounting, some self-objectifying robot maintenance. It is strange that people find it hard to imagine how to forgive without receiving anything back.
For one thing, I seriously doubt I'm in position to judge “growth” of other people.
I’m just not sure why I would continue to interact with someone who treated me badly without remorse. You might call it accounting or game theory, I call it self-preservation.
For one thing, I seriously doubt I'm in position to judge “growth” of other people.