I lived with my parents on and off until I was 31, that was when I managed to marry and move out hopefully permanently this time.
It is Anedacta... but I think I know what is going on.
1. The labor market is a mess, for example today I got another rejection letter from a job I sent my resume, thing is, I am literally perfect for the job, my resume (that I didn't tailor for it) matched perfectly what they asked, even the "additional" things, including the fact they wanted someone that made Hidden Object games before (I had a whole company to make those with millions of downloads).
I have a strong impression hiring is just screwed, people often don't even read resumes, for example I had a company invite me to do a job I don't know how to do, only for the interviewer of the company realize they are wasting time (a company asked me to do ML work, I never listed ML anywhere in my resume).
Also I am 33 now, and never had a job registered legally in my country, I only had contracts and "contracts".
Also here having internship is mandatory to graduate, a lot of my friends failed to graduate beause they didn't found any internship even for free, to graduate myself I actually created a company and hired myself (it is legal to do that O.o).
Now relationshipwise: I looked for relationships very hard, and kept finding only people wnating flings, including one person that scammed me (she claimed she would marry me and whatnot to convince me to have sex with her, since I wanted to marry virgin, after she got bored with me she declared that all she wanted was my body and kicked me out).
Only reason I managed to marry at all, is that I went to a church, found a childhood friend there that also wanted to marry and was having similar issues, and I asked her right off the bat if she wanted to marry me then, and she said yes. (we are very happy, for those wondering...)
If it wasn't for a lucky coincincidence (in case you don't believe in God or something... I only went to that church because my car broke that day when I was going elsewhere and going that church was in the situation at the time the logical option) I probably would still be alone.
Same thing applies to a lot of my friends, many, many of them are single, and jobless, after a while some of them just give up on living properly and settle for videogames... videogames are not the culprit, they are the escape, they are a solution to have a life, even if virtual, after your real life becomes seemly impossible to live.
EDIT: by the way, student debt doesn't help, for example I did got "legal" job offers, but to earn mininum wage (for example supermarket cashier), thing is, my student debt monthly payments was roughly twice the mininum wage, so accepting a mininum wage legal job would put me in further debt. Thankfully my Startup Kidoteca was a reasonable success and I paid my debts with it.
I had a whole company to make those with millions of downloads
After my first startup failed I was rejected for developer jobs, and a few places said it was because they thought I'd want to quit and start a new company rather than stay there for the long haul. More anecdata obviously, but some employers see someone's previous independence as a forewarning of that person looking for independence again in the near future.
I got this too. Even with a strong interest in the business area and multiple hours of interviews going well: “You’d be a great fit here”, “You were technically strong”, … , “We don’t think you really want this job”.
I really wanted that job. That’s only the most recent, but I have had an overwhelming number of these experiences. I know my own worth, but to convince someone to actually let you work for them - impossible.
It is Anedacta... but I think I know what is going on.
1. The labor market is a mess, for example today I got another rejection letter from a job I sent my resume, thing is, I am literally perfect for the job, my resume (that I didn't tailor for it) matched perfectly what they asked, even the "additional" things, including the fact they wanted someone that made Hidden Object games before (I had a whole company to make those with millions of downloads).
I have a strong impression hiring is just screwed, people often don't even read resumes, for example I had a company invite me to do a job I don't know how to do, only for the interviewer of the company realize they are wasting time (a company asked me to do ML work, I never listed ML anywhere in my resume).
Also I am 33 now, and never had a job registered legally in my country, I only had contracts and "contracts".
Also here having internship is mandatory to graduate, a lot of my friends failed to graduate beause they didn't found any internship even for free, to graduate myself I actually created a company and hired myself (it is legal to do that O.o).
Now relationshipwise: I looked for relationships very hard, and kept finding only people wnating flings, including one person that scammed me (she claimed she would marry me and whatnot to convince me to have sex with her, since I wanted to marry virgin, after she got bored with me she declared that all she wanted was my body and kicked me out).
Only reason I managed to marry at all, is that I went to a church, found a childhood friend there that also wanted to marry and was having similar issues, and I asked her right off the bat if she wanted to marry me then, and she said yes. (we are very happy, for those wondering...)
If it wasn't for a lucky coincincidence (in case you don't believe in God or something... I only went to that church because my car broke that day when I was going elsewhere and going that church was in the situation at the time the logical option) I probably would still be alone.
Same thing applies to a lot of my friends, many, many of them are single, and jobless, after a while some of them just give up on living properly and settle for videogames... videogames are not the culprit, they are the escape, they are a solution to have a life, even if virtual, after your real life becomes seemly impossible to live.
EDIT: by the way, student debt doesn't help, for example I did got "legal" job offers, but to earn mininum wage (for example supermarket cashier), thing is, my student debt monthly payments was roughly twice the mininum wage, so accepting a mininum wage legal job would put me in further debt. Thankfully my Startup Kidoteca was a reasonable success and I paid my debts with it.