To me this sounds a lot like a distinction without a difference.
My wife and I have different preferences for different things. We each routinely compromise by going along with the others preferences. We aim to do that in such as way as to achieve a healthy balance, where each of us feel satisfied and have our needs met. We do this by using communication.
To my knowledge, neither of us feel any animosity towards those compromises, because we’re both very interested in taking care of each other, and meeting each other’s needs.
Is this self-giving or self-serving? It just seems like using different vocabulary for the same thing.
My wife and I have different preferences for different things. We each routinely compromise by going along with the others preferences. We aim to do that in such as way as to achieve a healthy balance, where each of us feel satisfied and have our needs met. We do this by using communication.
To my knowledge, neither of us feel any animosity towards those compromises, because we’re both very interested in taking care of each other, and meeting each other’s needs.
Is this self-giving or self-serving? It just seems like using different vocabulary for the same thing.