And the OP I replied to said that's not a self-giving attitude.
So in my case, taking turn counts as a compromise.
And so this is my point, I don't think compromising means that you're not in a self-giving relationship, in fact, I think it shows that you are, since both of you are considerate of the other and finding ways to please the other in turn.
I think maybe its the attitude, not the act that is different between a "self giving" turn taking, and a "compromise" turn taking.
Under a "self giving" regime, I want to spend time with my partner, enjoying her enjoying the movie she wants to watch.
My partner wants to spend time with me enjoying the movie I want to watch.
We can't both do that, so we each take turns letting the other one enjoy being with us while we watch the movie we want to watch.
Under the "compromise" option, we each get to watch the movie we want to watch, taking turn and turn about. That is what is important about the event: that we get to watch the movie we want to watch.
I think maybe the movie choice is a pretty trivial aspect of the relationship anyway, the GPs post around the willingness to serve your partner was a lovely insight to what makes a partnership work over the long term, far beyond how you both decide what movie to watch.
That could of course happen. Or you might actually start to actually like what your partner liked, fail to realize your partner's taste in movies moving on and eventually end up with a weird foster taste if/when the relationship ends (for that reason or another)
And so everyone is happy half the time, and you are mutually trying to make each other happy.
That’s fair, supportive, and a good marriage basically.