I’m torn on the setting an example bit. My parents never drank at all, that I know of. Growing up I was led to believe that you drank either never or always, like there was no middle ground. I wish someone had told me or demonstrated that it’s OK and normal to have the occasional drink and then stop.
We’re fortunate to live in a house with a yard. If I were going to smoke or vape, it’d be on the back deck. I wouldn’t use it inside any more than I’d use tobacco smoke or vape in my living room. More likely, I’d use an edible.
The downside to doing it secretly is that I’m pretty sure my kids in high school know what a stoned person looks like. The last thing I’d want is to have them notice I was under the influence, then come to their own (and wrong) conclusions like “huh, does Dad do this every night? Has he always?”
My parents drink wine at every meal… there is never water at their table! And yet I have never seen them drink any alcohol without food… my perception when I was young was that wine was just another beverage. As an adult now I pretty much follow their example… I don’t drink if I am not dining… but unlike them I do it onto certain or twice a week.
We’re fortunate to live in a house with a yard. If I were going to smoke or vape, it’d be on the back deck. I wouldn’t use it inside any more than I’d use tobacco smoke or vape in my living room. More likely, I’d use an edible.
The downside to doing it secretly is that I’m pretty sure my kids in high school know what a stoned person looks like. The last thing I’d want is to have them notice I was under the influence, then come to their own (and wrong) conclusions like “huh, does Dad do this every night? Has he always?”