Of course, I just think that the term mailman, even if gendered, isn't exclusionary.

I don't feel like i have the right to decide as an individual dude whether it is or not.

Taking offence is an individual decision too.

I don't think see it as "taking offense" personally. If somebody just happens to prefer it, then I don't see why I wouldn't. No skin off my back.

I don't believe this is entirely honest since you probably also have a limit in what you are willing to accommodate, be that faith, self-identification or just a usual form of courtesy.

Granted, apathy would be my solution too, but here I am expected to align the way I express myself.

I do believe that the desire to frame anything gender neutral is not something I want to put too much thought into but I don't mind conflict if someone requests to accommodate what is basically a faith.