The only cross platform toolkit that pulls it off well is Java. IntelliJ feels good on every platform. Qt apps can also feel native if a little effort is put into it. Rust GUI frameworks are one of its weaker areas IMO.
The next time you use a Swing app, look for these examples of how it "pulls it off well":
* The first time any particular window is opened, Swing draws the contents but then changes its mind about the window size, recalculates the layout and then redraws the contents again slightly differently.
* When Swing creates a window, you can sometimes observe how creates it in the wrong spot and then moves it to where it was supposed to be created.
* Alt-tabbing quickly between two windows in a Swing application doesn't always work. It sometimes just glitches and leaves you in the window you started with. (Confirmed just now on Windows 10 with Java 17. The bug has been there for many, many years.)
* When opening a submenu of a menu, Swing does nothing to handle the problem of the menu closing again as you're moving towards it but accidentally mouse over an adjacent item. Platform GUI toolkits solve this either with a delay or by tracking the direction of the movement. IntelliJ implements its own menu bar to make this work.
* Try to find an example of a window that is resizable in only one direction or only up to a certain maximum size. As far as I can tell, this is not possible in Swing, and applications handle this limitation by designing all UIs to be resizable even when it doesn't make any sense.
I have never had anything other than a terrible experience with a Java app, under Windows, Linux (in GNOME 2 and Unity most of a decade ago, i3, or Sway). They always disregard platform conventions in both look and feel to a painful extent. But I will declare that I haven’t ever used IntelliJ, and I have no idea what it uses for its UI. But out of the box, Qt seems vastly better at matching platform look and feel, and generally gives you decent control over matching or not to match your requirements.
It looks mostly ok, but on Linux it doesn’t support smooth scrolling (even though this is supported by gtk). You also can’t use the meta key (windows key / cmd) as a modifier key for keyboard shortcuts. So I can’t configure intellij to use all the keyboard bindings I’m used to from macos. Again, this isn’t a problem with other gtk apps. It’s just (apparently) a platform limitation of whatever Java toolkit they’re using.
So in my experience it’s 95% of the way there. I certainly prefer it over Xcode, but it has issues that native apps don’t have.
First of all, up-to-date official packages are now published to Maven Central as part of the release process, so you can just add it as a dependency as easily as with any other library. Until recently you would have had to either fiddle around with Eclipse's alternative package management system, download it manually or use someone's unofficial Maven artifact. But that's now resolved.
Secondly, if you bundle a Java runtime customized with jlink (as is recommended these days), an SWT application is actually smaller than a Swing application. When you don't use Swing, you can exclude the entire "java.desktop" module, which is slightly larger than the SWT libraries.
Regarding Java I think that's more of a Jetbrains thing that IntelliJ feels good on every platform than Java per se. Contrast it with Netbeans for a more "pure" Java desktop experience.
I've been an JetBrains (IntelliJ and these days CLion) user since about 2004 and what I'd say is this was a hard fought and slow incremental advancement. Back in the 00s, IDEA's UI experience was really sub-par and its foreign nature on the platform was very very clear.
It's amazing the amount of work JetBrains has put into this.
It’s mostly an IntelliJ thing. All other Java apps are ugly and weird.
And there are non-native behaviors in IntelliJ too. For example you can’t close windows by double-clicking the window icon on Windows (a feature of Windows since Windows 1?).
