A lot of people believe they know the optimal time to reach out. But with my manager hat on, it's also true that a lot of people wait well beyond what's optimal for the organization. Things that can get in the way include pride, anxiety, laziness, a tendency to procrastinate, underestimating the resources available, and overestimating the cost of interruption, and underestimating the cost of delay. Maybe you are the rare sort of person who is perfectly calibrated. But if so, know that it's rare.

No, I'm not that rare sort of person. But it also isn't in the organization's best interest to force everyone into a single style of work, rather than supporting people in their own preferred style of work. That's why management is hard! If it were as easy as "having a status update meeting every morning is the optimal process for everyone", we could pay managers a lot less :)

I think there's conflict between "own preferred style of work" and what's effective for a given team. If there's a team of people who are, say, doing fine communicating only via pull request, then I wouldn't mess with them. But if somebody of those habits wanted to join a team that was into pairing and a faster release cycle, then I would suggest that new person look elsewhere. So although I don't think it's in the best interests for a large org to force everybody to work similarly, I do think it's in an org's interests to support teams finding an effective joint work style, even if that means a given individual might not find it optimum or might even have to find something else to do.