Man, if this was irl, you'd be punched in the face or ostracized. That's a quick way to assess if your tone is right.

If you don't have a mental capacity to do that (nothing against you, some people are just born that way) — I pity you, but still, try to be 'helpful' over 'correct'. That's how civilization is built.

Wikipedia also have this problem, with moderators using some 'wiki-speak' jargon to 'win the comment battles'.