So, you actually think that social norms are not a problem? Seriously? What about the norms that led Galileo to house arrest, or many to being burned at the stake, etc. etc.?
I think it's a pointless exercise. They just "are", simple as that. Problem or not, there's no point in trying to judge a society by some arbitrary set of rules that really don't understand how it got there or why those norms exist.
My point is that if you feel they are a problem then you need tools to protect yourself while you work to change those "root causes".
It's not "arbitrary" to decide e.g. that German society should not put Jews into a gas chamber. Your ideas here of not judging norms are just deranged and you should fix that, just like societies that have accepted deranged norms should fix them. You may think my standards here are arbitrary but you need to fix that.
The Nazis made sure to eliminate anyone who would obviously be opposed to their goals well before they implemented them on a national scale. That had two important effects: it silenced the voices that would decry them, and had a chilling effect on the rest of the populace.
Hence, why anonymous speech is important. You cannot influence the norms of a society that will kill you or otherwise ostracize you for voicing opposition to them.
Also, if you feel the best way to make your point is to Godwin the topic, it's time to take a step back.
